Sometimes we think we can solve our own problems or should just get on with things and not ask for help. Pregnancy and becoming a new mum can be a time of change for your body, your relationships and your emotions.
Sometimes you will feel happy and ready for the changes a new baby will bring but at other times you might feel worried, sad or overwhelmed.
You might wonder whether you’re doing the ‘right’ thing and coping as well as you should. Lots of new mums ask themselves the same questions.
Support for you
It might be difficult for you to tell someone how you are feeling or to ask for help but there are telephone services available which are confidential and anonymous including:
- Speak directly to a midwife by calling (07) 3216 0376 or 1800 017 676
- Register for our midwife check-in service: Click here if you would like to have a midwife support you with free regular telephone calls
- Click here to ask a general health question via our website
- Click here for a list of other support services.
Getting out and about might make you feel better and less anxious and you might consider some of the following activities:
Support from other new mothers may be helpful and you might consider joining a playgroup or mother’s group to share experiences and help overcome feelings of isolation: www.playgroupqueensland.com.au. Call the Playgroup Association of Queensland on 1800 171 882 to find a group near you.
Different people are looking for different types of groups and activities. If you would prefer to join a group with the focus on fitness rather than children, consider a local walking/ Parents with Prams walking group.
Participating in online groups is another option. It is possible to remain anonymous with the format making it easier to express negative emotions, although these forums do not offer professional support and the views and beliefs expressed may be very different from your own.
Your General Practitioner can listen to your concerns and link you to other services which are available. At first you might feel uncomfortable discussing your concerns so consider taking your partner or a friend with you to the appointment.
Support from partner
Sometimes you might wonder if you are doing the right thing and coping as well as you should. It can help to talk with your partner, let them know how you are feeling. They are probably adjusting too but can provide extra support.
Just having someone listen to you, without needing to solve the problem/s is helpful. Lots of people might offer you advice – some helpful, some not so helpful.
The support offered by your partner might be emotional or practical or both. Remember, if a partner is taking on extra duties, they may start to feel overwhelmed. It is important you both look after your emotional needs by seeking help if it all gets ‘too much’.
Support from family and friends
Women can find it difficult to ask for or accept assistance, and family and friends may stay away because they are afraid of interfering.
Family and friends might be able to help you by:
- Listening – talking with a friend about your feelings and your circumstances
- Preparing a nutritious traditional meal for your family
- Phoning you regularly to see how you are
- Offering practical help – taking children to and from school, minding the baby while you go for a walk.
Being pregnant and a new mum can be both exciting and challenging. You might wonder if you are doing the right thing and feel very tired a lot. Sometimes it can be difficult to ask for help, especially when you are feeling very emotional.
Asking for or accepting help might make you worried about what others will think of you. Remember there are different types of help available.
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